Posts belonging to Category Emotions

BEWARE OF MEETING PEOPLE ON SOCIAL NETWORKING OR DATING MATCH SITES

As a divorce lawyer, I am seeing social networking take an ever-increasing role in my cases.  Years ago, I first encountered this when opposing counsel produced a copy of a dating service posting by my client listing himself as single.  Since that time, I have seen many instances of people posting themselves as single, when [...]

How to Deal with a Passive-Aggressive Ex-Spouse

Protecting Yourself from a Passive-Aggressive Ex-Spouse   Because it’s easy to get pulled back into situations and emotionally charged issues you worked so hard to extricate yourself from, protect yourself with these tips to keep hidden anger from seeping back into your relationship with your ex-spouse: •  Watch out for emotional reasoning or “feel think,” [...]

Coach Judy’s Practical Tips: How Children Are Effected by Divorce

Coach Judy’s Practical Tips: What to Avoid So Children Can Achieve Success If you could turn back the clock just before the relationship deteriorated or during the legal process, what would you have done differently to save the pain and anger you or your children may be experiencing then or now? Too often, relationship end [...]

BEWARE OF TAKING YOUR CHILD TO A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL WITHOUT THE OTHER PARENT’S KNOWLEDGE

For years, I have had a philosophy of not entering into a custody action without some supporting testimony from a mental health professional.  Often, there are issues reported by the children that can be brought out through the testimony of the mental health professional and one doesn’t want the other party to know this is [...]

THE DANGER OF THE SCHOOL ADMISSION FORM IN CUSTODY CASES

School admission forms become an issue in many custody cases.  In some cases, a Mother involved in divorce is angry at the Father, so she doesn’t list him on the school form.  In other cases, Father will list his new wife (the step mother) as the mother and neglect to list the children’s natural mother.  These [...]

WHAT ARE CUSTODY RIGHTS BEFORE THERE’S AN ORDER?

Before a court has entered some form of order, each parent has equal rights to custody. Unfortunately, if parents choose to, they can play a vicious and destructive game of “keep away.” Sometimes a “keep away” strategy is necessary, but in such cases, court assistance should be sought as soon as possible. Until there is [...]

RECENT ALLEGED ABUSE CASES HEIGHTEN RESPONSIBILITY TO REPORT ABUSE

Child abusers are masters of deception. They often disguise their abuse with careers of service, such as children’s ministry, or church, or school.  They also conceal their character by attaching themselves to people whose reputations are beyond repute.  People seem to assume that people with great character will only have those with great character around [...]

ABUSE CAN BE VERY SUBTLE BUT JUST AS DESTRUCTIVE AS A PUNCH IN THE NOSE

As a family lawyer, I often deal with abuse that is difficult, if not impossible to prove.  The divorce lawyer faces many obstacles in dealing with this. First, many people don’t fully appreciate the abuse they are suffering because it is so subtle.  Second, the abused person often feels either responsible or so embarrassed that [...]

IF IT AIN’T WRITTEN DOWN, IT WON’T HAPPEN

Divorce negotiation is a tricky thing.  It is much more complicated than a business negotiation because of the emotions involved.  It is also made difficult by the fact that few married people can negotiate at what we call “arms length.”  Each party has emotional leverage on the other.  Most often, one party has superior emotional [...]

CAN WE REALLY RELY ON “PRECEDENT” IN DIVORCE CASES? IS GAMBLING NOW GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE?

Lawyers are taught that they are to rely upon “precedent” in advising their clients and presenting their cases.  “Precedent” means that the matter has been decided a certain way before by a court of authority and it should be decided that way again.  But the truth of the matter is that precedent seems to do [...]

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