Posts belonging to Category Emotions

RECENT ALLEGED ABUSE CASES HEIGHTEN RESPONSIBILITY TO REPORT ABUSE

Child abusers are masters of deception. They often disguise their abuse with careers of service, such as children’s ministry, or church, or school.  They also conceal their character by attaching themselves to people whose reputations are beyond repute.  People seem to assume that people with great character will only have those with great character around [...]

ABUSE CAN BE VERY SUBTLE BUT JUST AS DESTRUCTIVE AS A PUNCH IN THE NOSE

As a family lawyer, I often deal with abuse that is difficult, if not impossible to prove.  The divorce lawyer faces many obstacles in dealing with this. First, many people don’t fully appreciate the abuse they are suffering because it is so subtle.  Second, the abused person often feels either responsible or so embarrassed that [...]

IF IT AIN’T WRITTEN DOWN, IT WON’T HAPPEN

Divorce negotiation is a tricky thing.  It is much more complicated than a business negotiation because of the emotions involved.  It is also made difficult by the fact that few married people can negotiate at what we call “arms length.”  Each party has emotional leverage on the other.  Most often, one party has superior emotional [...]

CAN WE REALLY RELY ON “PRECEDENT” IN DIVORCE CASES? IS GAMBLING NOW GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE?

Lawyers are taught that they are to rely upon “precedent” in advising their clients and presenting their cases.  “Precedent” means that the matter has been decided a certain way before by a court of authority and it should be decided that way again.  But the truth of the matter is that precedent seems to do [...]

MISSISSIPPI’S CONSTITUTIONAL INITIATIVE 26 WILL RUN HEAD ON INTO MODERN ASSISTED REPRODUCTIVE TECHNOLOGY

Tomorrow, Mississippi Voters go to the polls to vote on a Constitutional Amendment declaring “personhood” to start at conception.  The Initiative is quoted below as it will appear on the ballot: “Initiative #26 would amend the Mississippi Constitution to define the word “person” or “persons”, as those terms are used in Article III of the [...]

How to Negotiate a Successful Love Relationship Agreement © 2011

When you have a challenge in your love relationship you have only four choices:  1.      Change yourself (this requires introspection and self-honesty); 2.      Negotiate for modifications (this necessitates effective listening and a demonstration of understanding); 3.      Leave the relationship (if you have tried the first two, including professional guidance to no avail); 4.      Don’t do [...]

IMPACT OF GAY MARRIAGES AND ADOPTIONS IN STATES THAT DO NOT PERMIT IT

A wide range of complicated legal issues sit upon the horizon in the clash between States that allow rights for gays and States that don’t.  The wall seems to have fallen blocking gay marriage, and those married in States where it is legal will be moving into States where it is not.  With regard to [...]

ACCEPTANCE OR RESISTANCE; CHOOSE…It’s Your Choice Not to Suffer

I have found that what divorcing people want most, next to healthy, thriving children, is to be at peace and happy again.  They want to end their suffering and feel better; shed the anger, pain, anxiety and stress that often come with dissolving a marriage.  Having peace of mind and being happy with your life [...]

Surviving Separation

New to blogging here — but I’d like to share an edited excerpt from my book Surviving Separation and Divorce: A Woman’s Guide to Regaining Control, Building Strength & Confidence and Securing a Financial Future (second edition) by Loriann Oberlin, MS While written for women long before I began second career in mental health, I [...]

Conscious Connection After Divorce

“Have you seen “The Beast” grandma? I cannot find him anywhere!” This is the message I heard on our answering machine from my frantic three year old granddaughter. She had misplaced her good friend, a stuffed Disney character from Beauty and the Beast. The shock and disbelief that her good friend had vanished is often [...]

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