Posts belonging to Category Love & Relationships

RECENT ALLEGED ABUSE CASES HEIGHTEN RESPONSIBILITY TO REPORT ABUSE

Child abusers are masters of deception. They often disguise their abuse with careers of service, such as children’s ministry, or church, or school.  They also conceal their character by attaching themselves to people whose reputations are beyond repute.  People seem to assume that people with great character will only have those with great character around [...]

ABUSE CAN BE VERY SUBTLE BUT JUST AS DESTRUCTIVE AS A PUNCH IN THE NOSE

As a family lawyer, I often deal with abuse that is difficult, if not impossible to prove.  The divorce lawyer faces many obstacles in dealing with this. First, many people don’t fully appreciate the abuse they are suffering because it is so subtle.  Second, the abused person often feels either responsible or so embarrassed that [...]

How to Negotiate a Successful Love Relationship Agreement © 2011

When you have a challenge in your love relationship you have only four choices:  1.      Change yourself (this requires introspection and self-honesty); 2.      Negotiate for modifications (this necessitates effective listening and a demonstration of understanding); 3.      Leave the relationship (if you have tried the first two, including professional guidance to no avail); 4.      Don’t do [...]

Surviving Separation

New to blogging here — but I’d like to share an edited excerpt from my book Surviving Separation and Divorce: A Woman’s Guide to Regaining Control, Building Strength & Confidence and Securing a Financial Future (second edition) by Loriann Oberlin, MS While written for women long before I began second career in mental health, I [...]

Man Drops 20 Tonne Boulder in Ex-Wife’s Driveway

PHOTO VÉRONIQUE TREMBLAY It’s the prank heard ‘round the world: Dany Larivière, the mayor of a small town in Quebec, Canada decided to give his ex-wife, Isabelle Prevost, the “big rock” she’d always wanted by dropping a 20-tonne boulder in front of her house. Oh, and to ensure that Prevost didn’t mistake who was behind [...]

New Rules for Ontario Divorce Start Today

As of today, the Ontario (Canada) Government is rolling out an initiative that requires spouses to attend a mandatory information session prior to filing for divorce. The plan to roll out these new divorce rules in Ontario was announced in December 2010 after the idea was tested in Milton and Brampton, Ontario. The session is [...]

When lovers turn into schemers – the worst facebook divorce story yet

I read in the news today (The Globe & Mail) about this divorcing couple using facebook to oneup each other and ended up in court.  The wife faked a facebook name (Jessica) to befriend the husband, the  ex-to-be. The husband revealed his plan to kill the wife to Jessica. She went to the police.  In the end, he was [...]

Where Are My Friends – A Case Study

You know, now that I’m struggling with some depression, I realize how much I lost with this divorce. Danny, my ex, never really wanted to hang out with my friends, and while I liked his friends, now that we are divorced, they want to hang out with him. So it’s slim pickings for me. You [...]

Where Are My Friends

The loss of a marriage is a real death. That is why people grieve in divorce despite the fact that nobody has died. Grief applies to other human losses and not to a loss that comes from death. In some ways it is trickier to recover from divorce than from a death, because when you [...]

EMOTIONAL CLEAN BREAK IN A DIVORCE – POSSIBLE OR NOT?

Lets face it, divorce sucks!  However, it does not need to define the rest of your life, unless you let it.  We all know that playing the victim is not the best way to move through divorce, yet over and over again that is exactly what happens. Perhaps it is a bit subtler, maybe you [...]

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