Posts belonging to Category Mediation

PROTECT YOURSELF FROM HAVING LANGUAGE INTERPRETED AGAINST YOU WHEN YOU ARE THE DRAFTER

All attorneys know there are “rules of construction” in the interpretation of contracts and agreements.  These rules call for the Court to first see if the language is clear without further testimony.  If the language is not clear, the Court might hear testimony as to the intent of the parties.  If the intent is still [...]

IF IT AIN’T WRITTEN DOWN, IT WON’T HAPPEN

Divorce negotiation is a tricky thing.  It is much more complicated than a business negotiation because of the emotions involved.  It is also made difficult by the fact that few married people can negotiate at what we call “arms length.”  Each party has emotional leverage on the other.  Most often, one party has superior emotional [...]

Mediation vs. Litigation – A common sense trend to Resolving Matrimonial Issues

Finding yourself on the doorsteps of divorce is hard enough emotionally but add the multitude of decisions that are going to have to be made and it can feel completely overwhelming. While there are only two main areas for decision-making; kids and money, coming to resolution can take years and use up a lot of [...]

How to Negotiate a Successful Love Relationship Agreement © 2011

When you have a challenge in your love relationship you have only four choices:  1.      Change yourself (this requires introspection and self-honesty); 2.      Negotiate for modifications (this necessitates effective listening and a demonstration of understanding); 3.      Leave the relationship (if you have tried the first two, including professional guidance to no avail); 4.      Don’t do [...]

THE POWER OF QUICKEN

Every divorce case is a financial planning negotiation and requires the development of detailed budget, asset and liability information.  Assets and liabilities are relatively easy to pin down with documents and appraisals.  Accurate budget information is another thing altogether. Clients are usually told to sit down with their checks and credit cards and average the [...]

Getting Divorced – What is the first step?

The other day a woman called for advice. She just found out three days before that her husband was leaving.   She has been a stay at home mom with three children under 17 and maintains a healthy lifestyle supported by her husband’s good fortune in the market.  She wanted to know her rights and what [...]

New Rules for Ontario Divorce Start Today

As of today, the Ontario (Canada) Government is rolling out an initiative that requires spouses to attend a mandatory information session prior to filing for divorce. The plan to roll out these new divorce rules in Ontario was announced in December 2010 after the idea was tested in Milton and Brampton, Ontario. The session is [...]

Transforming Your Anger

A Chinese proverb said “If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” You are not your anger – but you may feel angry in divorce. Instead of escalating conflict during a divorce, first it is important to recognize the validity of your emotions. Anger is a [...]

Choosing a Peaceful Divorce

Eleanor Roosevelt said “It isn’t enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn’t enough to believe in it. One must work at it.” When a divorce occurs, one of the last adjectives people would use to describe the divorce process would be peaceful. The key to a peaceful divorce is [...]

Maintaining Confidentiality and Privacy

The question, how can you maintain confidentiality and financial privacy in your divorce may come to mind when you hear of high profile divorce cases where sensitive information was leaked to the public. Recently the Los Angeles Dodgers owners, Frank and Jamie McCourt have had their divorce widely publicized and it has become a national baseball [...]

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