Posts belonging to Category step parent

Facing Your Ex-Spouse’s Remarriage

Your ex-spouse’s remarriage can stir up a myriad of emotions, from jealousy to feelings of abandonment. You may have thought that you were getting over your divorce, only to be pulled back into experiencing the loss of your marriage again.  It is hard when one spouse has moved on and one still feels stuck. Distraction […]

Lessons I Learned from My Parents: Part VII

In my last article from this series, I described how easy it is for love to turn to hate when a parent’s efforts to use their child as a pawn in order to “harm, injure or otherwise extract revenge” against the other parent doesn’t play out as they had intended. In my case, my father […]

A Comparison Between Actual War and Family Law Litigation

It has long been said that the tongue is sharper than any sword. In fact, the Bible says, “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” (Bible, Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)) Of course, in litigation, we place such words into correspondence, declarations and pleadings in an effort to coerce a […]

Coach Judy’s Practical Tips: How Children Are Effected by Divorce

Coach Judy’s Practical Tips: What to Avoid So Children Can Achieve Success If you could turn back the clock just before the relationship deteriorated or during the legal process, what would you have done differently to save the pain and anger you or your children may be experiencing then or now? Too often, relationship end […]


School admission forms become an issue in many custody cases.  In some cases, a Mother involved in divorce is angry at the Father, so she doesn’t list him on the school form.  In other cases, Father will list his new wife (the step mother) as the mother and neglect to list the children’s natural mother.  These […]

Balancing Back to School Budget

Balance Needs VS Wants There is a ton of pier pressure around back to school clothing and supplies.  Make a list of their “needs” and agree that the children will get one or two of their “wants” met and then allocate a set dollar amount that they are free to spend. Set Budget in Advance […]

Mother’s/Step Mother’s Day

Stepfamilies represent nearly 12 per cent of all couples living with children in Canada Mother’s Day – A special day set aside to celebrate our mothers and grandmothers.  On the surface this seems easy enough – buy a card, some flowers and perhaps prepare dinner.  It is also a fun day for the younger children […]

6 Tips for Noncustodial Dads on How to Have a Great Father’s Day

For a number of years, Father’s Day was a more challenging time for me than any other time of year. My ex informed me that she wanted a divorce on Father’s Day 16 years ago. My kids were 5 and 10 at the time. To say it was tough for all of us to deal […]

Happy Step-Mother’s Day Cards

I still remember the first mother’s day experience I had with the younger of my 2 step children. He was about 7. It was just a couple of days before mother’s day. His school teacher had his class make up mother’s day cards. He came home and showed me a card he made, and said […]

Sandra Bullock’s relationship trouble brings up the rights of step mothers

America’s sweetheart and Academy Award winner Sandra Bullock reportedly is having marriage trouble because of her husband Jesse James’ admission of infidelity.  I am sure this story will be covered widely for many more weeks to come. What is interesting to me is her rights to her step children, if we assume that she wants […]