OK, take a deep breath. Sometimes stress does not even begin to describe what you may be feeling your first holiday season without your spouse, or without your children. Simply put, it stinks. As you read this, I can almost feel your shoulders rising up towards your neck. So, what are you going to do about it?
I’ve seen literally thousands of people go through this, some kicking and screaming or crying, others with a little more grace and dignity. Either way, it really is fine because the truth is, this too shall pass. So, if you are screaming and crying, honor your need for that and take the time to give it your all. Honor your needs, and give yourself a gift by not “should-ing” yourself this season. It’s easy to beat yourself up when life isn’t going as planned.
Think about a time in your life when you were really stuck, when you could NOT see beyond your situation. Then see yourself 6 months later. What did you do to pull yourself out? Sometimes when we are in the middle of a crisis, we can not see the future; we can not see any solutions. Yet if we remember, we always are able to find the solutions, which may be a simple as waiting for time to pass.
As a gift, I give you an audio download of a class I did on dealing with Divorce and the holidays. Just click here http://www.transcendingdivorce.com go down the page on the left hand side and click on the Divorce Blues Holiday MP3/CD picture and it will take you to the page where you order your complimentary copy and hear what others are doing to deal with the holiday season. You are sure to get some good ideas, and it helps to know you are certainly not alone.
As always, I wish for you the very best and send you tons of love and lots of peace.
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Lori Rubenstein, a former divorce attorney, is now a life-after-divorce coach, mediator, author, retreat leader and teacher. She is the author of Transcending Divorce: A Guide to Personal Growth and Transformation. She can be reached at 928-634-0252 or through her website www.TranscendingDivorce.com.
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