Posts belonging to Category Settlement

How Will Your Divorce Be Handled, “With Common Sense or With an Angry Court Battle”

Saturday afternoon and your spouse comes home and announces, “I want a divorce.” Shocked and a lost for words, what do you do. This is a common response by millions who are not expecting to hear such words. If this is you, please know that you are not alone! As one who has walked her […]

Creating a Peaceful Divorce

How is it possible to have a peaceful divorce when there is so much hurt, anger, and lack of trust? With the heartache of ending a marriage, how can you avoid the tremendous stress, pain, and financial devastation of a courtroom battle? Mediation can help you minimize the financial and emotional costs of divorce — […]

HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT PUTTING A DISABILITY INSURANCE PROVISION IN YOUR DIVORCE AGREEMENT?

It is quite common for parties to negotiate life insurance coverage for divorce agreements, but it seems quite uncommon to provide for disability insurance.  Of course, this insurance is not as common as life insurance and may prove too expensive for many couples, but insurance agents tell us disability is much more probable than we […]

HOW TO NEGOTIATE WITHOUT CAUSING TROUBLE, PARTICULARLY WITH A DOMINANT SPOUSE

A lot of my clients talk with their spouses directly about settlement of divorce disputes.  Many times my clients want to know what to say.  I have developed a simple script for them to follow.  The simplicity is important, because they need to be able to remember the script under pressure. Here it is: Give only […]

IF DIVORCE INVOLVES COMPLEX ISSUES CAN YOU STILL USE A MEDIATOR?

A mediator should help parties reach an agreement that is manageable.  Neither party should be completely happy or completely dissatisfied.  When a case goes before a judge, the judge is, in fact, limited in the types of resolutions he or she can provide in a case.   In mediation, the parties can be far more flexible […]

HOW THE ECONOMIC CRISIS IMPACTS DIVORCE, CHILD SUPPORT, ALIMONY, EQUITABLE DISTRIBUTION OF PROPERTY AND DEBT

        The main obligation of the Courts and for attorneys is to obtain a fair result.  As the economic downturn continues, the Courts are having to make rulings to accommodate job losses, losses of assets, such as stocks, bonds, IRAs, and other financial instruments as well as the devaluation of the marital home and increase […]