Posts belonging to Category Stress

How to Negotiate a Successful Love Relationship Agreement © 2011

When you have a challenge in your love relationship you have only four choices:  1.      Change yourself (this requires introspection and self-honesty); 2.      Negotiate for modifications (this necessitates effective listening and a demonstration of understanding); 3.      Leave the relationship (if you have tried the first two, including professional guidance to no avail); 4.      Don’t do […]

ACCEPTANCE OR RESISTANCE; CHOOSE…It’s Your Choice Not to Suffer

I have found that what divorcing people want most, next to healthy, thriving children, is to be at peace and happy again.  They want to end their suffering and feel better; shed the anger, pain, anxiety and stress that often come with dissolving a marriage.  Having peace of mind and being happy with your life […]

THINGS YOUR BURGLAR WON’T TELL YOU

I know I normally talk about family law matters, but this information is too valuable not to pass on.  The author of the following information also suggests you place your car keys by your bed so you can hit your car alarm button on your keys if a burglar enters, and to get wasp spray […]

Surviving Separation

New to blogging here — but I’d like to share an edited excerpt from my book Surviving Separation and Divorce: A Woman’s Guide to Regaining Control, Building Strength & Confidence and Securing a Financial Future (second edition) by Loriann Oberlin, MS While written for women long before I began second career in mental health, I […]

Balancing Back to School Budget

Balance Needs VS Wants There is a ton of pier pressure around back to school clothing and supplies.  Make a list of their “needs” and agree that the children will get one or two of their “wants” met and then allocate a set dollar amount that they are free to spend. Set Budget in Advance […]

Divorce Lawyers’ Occupational Hazard — Arizona Killing Spree Fuelled by Bitter Divorce

As the month of June comes to a close, I can’t help but think of the horrifying shooting spree of June 2 in Yuma, Arizona that saw six people murdered by a 73-year old gunman, Dyess, who later took his own life. Apparently, the shooting spree was fuelled by a “divorce gone bad.” According to Yuma Police Chief the killing […]