Posts belonging to Category Parenting

How to Deal with a Passive-Aggressive Ex-Spouse

Protecting Yourself from a Passive-Aggressive Ex-Spouse   Because it’s easy to get pulled back into situations and emotionally charged issues you worked so hard to extricate yourself from, protect yourself with these tips to keep hidden anger from seeping back into your relationship with your ex-spouse: •  Watch out for emotional reasoning or “feel think,” [...]

Coach Judy’s Practical Tips: How Children Are Effected by Divorce

Coach Judy’s Practical Tips: What to Avoid So Children Can Achieve Success If you could turn back the clock just before the relationship deteriorated or during the legal process, what would you have done differently to save the pain and anger you or your children may be experiencing then or now? Too often, relationship end [...]

BEWARE OF TAKING YOUR CHILD TO A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL WITHOUT THE OTHER PARENT’S KNOWLEDGE

For years, I have had a philosophy of not entering into a custody action without some supporting testimony from a mental health professional.  Often, there are issues reported by the children that can be brought out through the testimony of the mental health professional and one doesn’t want the other party to know this is [...]

THE DANGER OF THE SCHOOL ADMISSION FORM IN CUSTODY CASES

School admission forms become an issue in many custody cases.  In some cases, a Mother involved in divorce is angry at the Father, so she doesn’t list him on the school form.  In other cases, Father will list his new wife (the step mother) as the mother and neglect to list the children’s natural mother.  These [...]

CHILDREN

Many factors are involved in determining the parenting arrangement after divorce, including but not limited to, the parents’ abilities to cooperate and communicate, and the parents’ historic roles during the marriage, and feasibility of a parenting arrangement considering the work responsibilities of the parents, and proximity of their homes after the divorce.  Issues of abuse [...]

WHAT ARE CUSTODY RIGHTS BEFORE THERE’S AN ORDER?

Before a court has entered some form of order, each parent has equal rights to custody. Unfortunately, if parents choose to, they can play a vicious and destructive game of “keep away.” Sometimes a “keep away” strategy is necessary, but in such cases, court assistance should be sought as soon as possible. Until there is [...]

Friends After Divorce – Possible? Recommended?

Most will agree that being friends after a relationship is difficult as the question of ulterior motive and resentment can hover in the clouds.  If friendship is in the cards it requires clear boundaries, a very understanding new partner and an ability of both parties to take responsibility and be accountable to the outcome of [...]

Balancing Back to School Budget

Balance Needs VS Wants There is a ton of pier pressure around back to school clothing and supplies.  Make a list of their “needs” and agree that the children will get one or two of their “wants” met and then allocate a set dollar amount that they are free to spend. Set Budget in Advance [...]

BACK TO SCHOOL TIPS FOR CO-PARENTS

A repost of an article by Jai Kissoon, of OurFamilyWizard.com.  We recommend that all divorced parents explore the site as a possibility of making co-parenting easier and more effective. The new school year is quickly approaching and its time to start preparing. If you and your co-parents both take part in the upbringing of your [...]

CONTINUITY OF CARE PLAYS A HUGE ROLE IN A MAN’S RIGHT TO CUSTODY

Many people and clients ask, “What are a man’s chances of getting custody?”  This question comes from the common perception that there is a prejudice against men in custody proceedings.  I usually answer the question in two ways.  First, the question that needs to be asked, is, “What role has the man played in the [...]

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