Posts belonging to Category Separation

Mediation vs. Litigation – A common sense trend to Resolving Matrimonial Issues

Finding yourself on the doorsteps of divorce is hard enough emotionally but add the multitude of decisions that are going to have to be made and it can feel completely overwhelming. While there are only two main areas for decision-making; kids and money, coming to resolution can take years and use up a lot of [...]

IMPACT OF GAY MARRIAGES AND ADOPTIONS IN STATES THAT DO NOT PERMIT IT

A wide range of complicated legal issues sit upon the horizon in the clash between States that allow rights for gays and States that don’t.  The wall seems to have fallen blocking gay marriage, and those married in States where it is legal will be moving into States where it is not.  With regard to [...]

Surviving Separation

New to blogging here — but I’d like to share an edited excerpt from my book Surviving Separation and Divorce: A Woman’s Guide to Regaining Control, Building Strength & Confidence and Securing a Financial Future (second edition) by Loriann Oberlin, MS While written for women long before I began second career in mental health, I [...]

WILL THE POLICE HELP? IT’S A TOSS UP.

There are many occasions when police are called upon to help in a domestic situation.  The most obvious situation is a marriage argument or fight. Another common situation involves one spouse trying to leave the home and take personal possessions. I have had experience with many different situations and many different police officers and departments. [...]

BACK TO SCHOOL TIPS FOR CO-PARENTS

A repost of an article by Jai Kissoon, of OurFamilyWizard.com.  We recommend that all divorced parents explore the site as a possibility of making co-parenting easier and more effective. The new school year is quickly approaching and its time to start preparing. If you and your co-parents both take part in the upbringing of your [...]

CONTINUITY OF CARE PLAYS A HUGE ROLE IN A MAN’S RIGHT TO CUSTODY

Many people and clients ask, “What are a man’s chances of getting custody?”  This question comes from the common perception that there is a prejudice against men in custody proceedings.  I usually answer the question in two ways.  First, the question that needs to be asked, is, “What role has the man played in the [...]

When lovers turn into schemers – the worst facebook divorce story yet

I read in the news today (The Globe & Mail) about this divorcing couple using facebook to oneup each other and ended up in court.  The wife faked a facebook name (Jessica) to befriend the husband, the  ex-to-be. The husband revealed his plan to kill the wife to Jessica. She went to the police.  In the end, he was [...]

TIPS ON MOVING OUT SURREPTITIOUSLY TO AVOID ABUSE

Be sure he is gone. It is best if he is far enough away that he cannot get back in time if he is alerted. Be prepared for the possibility he may have alerted a neighbor to keep an eye on things for him. Move fast. Make sure all arrangements are made ahead of time [...]

EMOTIONAL CLEAN BREAK IN A DIVORCE – POSSIBLE OR NOT?

Lets face it, divorce sucks!  However, it does not need to define the rest of your life, unless you let it.  We all know that playing the victim is not the best way to move through divorce, yet over and over again that is exactly what happens. Perhaps it is a bit subtler, maybe you [...]

5 Valentine’s Day Survival Tips for Divorced People

Some divorced people can find the hoopla surrounding Valentine’s Day to be a painful and isolating experience. I wanted to offers 5 Valentine’s Day survival tips to transform a dreaded event into a day to embrace. Marketing-inspired images of lovers exchanging heart-shaped boxes of chocolate, advertisements that invite couples to escape for a romantic getaway for [...]

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