Lawyer Brahm Siegel says: Kill all lawyers? Hold that thought

After 14 years as a divorce lawyer, I’ve heard the same things from clients:

“I like you but don’t want to pay for you.”

“We’d really like to try to do this without lawyers.”

“No offence, but I’d rather spend my money on my children than yours.”

None taken. I’ve learned to have a thick skin and not take it personally.

Don’t get me wrong, I understand the desire to avoid heavy legal fees. Who wouldn’t? I always say spending money on a divorce lawyer is like going to a mechanic. It’s the last thing you want to spend money on and you’re completely vulnerable to them.

I’m not saying every couple needs to spend thousands of dollars on lawyers. Some cases require little to no legal expertise and can be easily settled with a “do-it-yourself” divorce kit or separation agreement you can buy online for a few hundred dollars. In my view, these situations are limited to marriages of very short duration with no children and no property. In more complicated cases, I’ve seen firsthand on a regular basis the damage a person can do when they foolishly decide to forego any legal advice.

Just the other day, I met with a man who signed a separation agreement three years ago, all done without any lawyer involvement. Although he was earning a good income, he agreed to pay child support based on an income amount almost $75,000 more than he was actually earning. At the time he felt he could afford it — that he would continue to earn more each year — and believed that getting lawyers involved would “mess everything up.”

The agreement did not state the income upon which the support was based, how this income was determined, nor provide any any mechanism to change the terms. Although it stated the wife would never seek spousal support, it was woefully lacking in terms of the usual “releases and waivers” that any lawyer worth his or her salt would include.

Now, three years later, he is earning much less than what he was making then. His business has suffered due to the recession and he cannot afford to continue the payments. He is understandably worried about asking to reduce his child support for fear of causing conflict with his former spouse, and he’s concerned she will seek to bring up the possibility of spousal support.

All of this could have been easily avoided with a simple consultation, which would have cost only a few hundred dollars. Even a family lawyer with little experience would have known to set the child support based on his true income, warned him of the consequences of paying more than necessary and included language confirming his right to seek a downwards variation of his payments in the event of a “material change in circumstances.”

On the spousal support issue, standard but important release clauses that force spouses to turn their minds to the consequences of giving up support and the factors in the Divorce Act and Family Law Act would have protected him forever from any re-opening and given him the peace of mind that every support payer seeks.

So the next time you hear someone lawyer-bash, think about how a good one can protect your rights in a big way.

Brahm Siegel is a partner in the law firm of Nathens, Siegel LLP, a Toronto law firm restricted to family law matters. Brahm has experience in all aspects of divorce and family law and devotes much of his time to assisting clients with custody and access dispute. He can be reached at (416) 222-6980. View his firm’s Divorce Magazine profile and website.

This article originally appeared in Metro News Canada.


  1. We don’t have to kill all the lawyers, we just need to take 1/2 of their money away.

  2. Martha says:

    It is easy to bash lawyers, while some may deserve it, others don’t. may be we can never be satisfied if we never wanted the divorce to begin with.

  3. Manager of this blog - Martha Chan Martha chan says:

    I have heard of lawyers who charge $200 an hour and a lawyer who charges $950 an hour. It’s up to us as to how much we want to pay. While $950 an hour is a lot of money, there are people who can afford and want to pay that kind of money to get that kind of lawyer. Maybe they have a lot at stake.