The Emptiness of Rejection

It is difficult for anyone to understand how terrible it is to be in a marriage with someone who simply does not love you anymore. You see: to come home to nothing is a terrible pain. Human beings need love and affection like plants need water. We are dry and half dead without it. We […]

Why Write Books on Divorce?

People often ask me why I am writing a series of books on divorce. The easy answer is that I have seen too many bad divorces and too few good divorces. And I know that kids benefit for good divorces. I also enjoy writing and one has to grab a subject and get deeply into […]

Denial, for Better and for Worse

Denial is a natural part of the grief process; this isn’t really happening to me! The Value of Denial: When you are first told about divorce or a medical illness for that matter, the mind often drops into denial. It protects you from the fear of what is to come. It gives you some time […]

The Pursuit of Happiness

As a student of philosophy I am often struck by how the values of culture can influence each individual, whether we know it or not. Religious faith, for instance seems to correlate with a longer lifespan, less alcohol abuse and better marital life. It may be that the values of the church/synagogue/mosque simply influence a […]

The Oscar Curse

There is a lot of buzz these days about the Oscar Curse and it may well be true according to researchers at the University of Toronto, who found that women that have won best actress are over fifty percent more likely to divorce than those who were simply nominated. Let’s be clear: since this accounts […]

What Are Your Values?: Part Two

In my psychiatric practice I am witnessing a major societal conflict about values. And it is happening in the lives of the individuals who are sitting on my couch, right in front of me. Value One: The value of personal happiness: Shouldn’t I be entitled to be happy? Value Two: There is the value of […]

Celebrity Divorce: Troy Aikman

When the former Dallas Cowboy quarterback announced his separation, I was happy to see so little gossip on the subject. It seems like both parents are keeping their cards close to the chest. This is something that I admire. Too many celebrities – or their spouses – share the unhappy details of a failing marriage. […]

What Are Your Values?: Part One

According to the Federal Reserve Board’s 1995 Survey of Consumer Finance, only 42 percent of children aged 14 to 18 live in an intact two-parent married family. This according to The Heritage Foundation (2000) has left many children at risk for a host of problems, from academic underperformance to mood issues like depression and self […]

Taking Charge of Sleep: Part Four

For the final piece from the Taking Charge of Sleep series here are some great tips from the National Institutes of Health. Stick to a sleep schedule. Go to bed and wake up at the same time each day—even on the weekends. Avoid large meals and beverages late at night. A large meal can cause […]

Taking Charge of Sleep: Part Three

We all toss and turn when under stress. The mind loops around, again and again. Do I have the right lawyer? Will I have enough money to live? What is happening to my children? What if I get sick? Have you ever noticed that anxiety comes out at night, just before you go to sleep […]